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Gail Rudnick and Kim Murstein \u2014 the no-nonsense hosts of hit podcast series \u201cExcuse My Grandma<\/em>\u201d \u2014\u00a0are The Post\u2019s\u00a0brand-new advice columnists<\/em>.<\/p>\n

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From family feuds to friendship fallouts, money, marriage and sex, there\u2019s no topic too taboo to tackle, and the native New Yorkers will hash out each issue from their differing perspectives to tell the tough-love truth \u2014 and you\u2019ll thank them for it.<\/em><\/p>\n

To get your questions answered, head to\u00a0nypost.com\/ema\u00a0and drop them a note about what you need sorted.<\/em><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Dear Excuse My Advice,<\/strong><\/p>\n

Some of my closest friendships were built around nights out at bars and shared chaos. Now I\u2019m craving quieter, more chill plans. But those friendships don\u2019t really exist outside of drinking. Am I abandoning the people I love, or just growing into a different version of myself? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Grandma Gail: <\/strong>You\u2019re just growing up. It\u2019s not really about going out and drinking and getting drunk and all that stuff.<\/p>\n

Now it\u2019s about developing relationships that really are the next chapter of your life. And sometimes those same people will also mature, and be doing the same next thing that you are doing. <\/p>\n

But if they don\u2019t, you know what? Those are just casual acquaintances, anyway, that you hooked up with.<\/p>\n

Kim: <\/strong>It\u2019s so hard because sometimes you don\u2019t mature at the same level as your friend, and you feel like you owe these people your friendship still, because you went to college together, or you were coworkers or went through some formative time together. <\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s a childhood friend, but you have nothing in common anymore in those situations. I don\u2019t know how you distance yourself from people if they\u2019re texting and calling and you\u2019re like, I don\u2019t like when we hang out because it\u2019s about drinking and that\u2019s not what I\u2019m into anymore. How do you slowly fade that out? <\/p>\n

Grandma Gail:<\/strong> Well, they\u2019re not close friendships. They were bar friendships or they were drinking friendships and they were college friendships. <\/p>\n

What you have in college, by and large\u2026 sorority sisters are not the people that are going to live next door to you and raise their children with your children. It\u2019s very rare that that happens.<\/p>\n

So I wouldn\u2019t worry about it. It\u2019s a part of your life. Those are chapters. They\u2019re passages. And you can\u2019t help it if it changes with the times. That\u2019s growing up. I think you want to keep people around you who fulfill you.<\/p>\n

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Kim: <\/strong>But maybe it\u2019s like the activity [you] do together is somewhere in the middle. They can come over for dinner one night.<\/p>\n

Grandma Gail: <\/strong>Only if it\u2019s really worth it. Sometimes it\u2019s okay to grow into that different version of yourself.<\/p>\n

Dear Excuse My Advice,<\/strong><\/p>\n

My best friend and I have known each other for 12 years. One day, I woke up and realized I\u2019m not just in love with her as a friend, but in a deeper sense. Is it okay to tell them, or should I keep those feelings to myself? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Grandma Gail: <\/strong>Well, I think if neither one of you are in a relationship. I think you could say, you know what, I think our friendship is changing. I mean, do it subtly. <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t all of a sudden say, you know, I love you, I love you, I can\u2019t live without you. You evidently can\u2019t live without each other if you\u2019re besties. So maybe in a cute way, say that I think my feelings are sort of changing.<\/p>\n

Kim: <\/strong>That\u2019s so hard.<\/p>\n

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Grandma Gail:<\/strong> I know it\u2019s hard, but, you know, I think it does happen because you spend so much time with your best friend. You have to see how they react. But if all of a sudden they push back, then you have to drop it.<\/p>\n

Kim: <\/strong>Here\u2019s my thought. If they\u2019re really your best friend, they\u2019re going to be super understanding whether you say that or you don\u2019t. I mean, even if they reciprocate the feelings or not \u2014 and hopefully it doesn\u2019t ruin the relationship. But you personally have to be prepared that the relationship could be ruined.<\/p>\n

Which is why it\u2019s scary to tell somebody that because it changes this dynamic that\u2019s been so great for so long.<\/p>\n

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Grandma Gail:<\/strong> They might want it as well. So go for a gamble. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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